Often times the nurturing of our organization does not occur. We have individuals or groups who are often neglected or are never addressed due to the system trying to help others who are not at the same level.
Many times we find individuals in the fire service who have expectations. Often these expectations are never met for whatever reason. One of the most common causes is that the expectations are not realistic ones, or ones that the organization cannot support for any member.
Under Developed Self Esteem
In most cases self esteem is not a major issue; however with some individuals the environments they are placed in are negative, hostile and/or demeaning. When this occurs it is not hard for them to have a low self esteem. We often see this with many of the harassment cases.
Many times individuals will have an unresolved issue. Why is this? Well most times they never have the fortitude to address them professionally. They get mad or sulk when they don’t get exactly what they want. There is no conflict resolution or closure in an issue. Other times they never choose to address the problem at all.
We recognize that many individuals will have these thoughts that are not controlled. That is they don’t have a full knowledge of all information and they are thinking one dimensional.
Who is influencing you and your thoughts? Who are your so called friends and colleagues? What are they feeding you?
Often times we find that individuals find themselves in a status quo mode due to being frustrated. The first area you should look at is who you are hanging with. In most cases it has been shown that who you are hanging with influences you tremendously, whether it is positive or negatively. In short — what junk are they feeding you?
Commitment takes work, and if in the relationship one side is not committed, then it becomes unreliable. Often times the organization is not the problem, but officers who don’t do their jobs. This influences the entire organization.
Keep It “FRESH”?
We have to invite today’s fire service in. We cannot be living in the past or on fantasies. Today’s fire service is a lot different than when I started back in 1980. The key is adapting and embracing change. We in the fire service have a burden of responsibility ... a responsibility to leave the service better than we inherited it. This means we have to learn from our own and other’s experiences, both good and bad. We must set a course of direction that has safety as the focus. This will mean that many cultures, values, opinions and beliefs will have to be changed — or better yet, educated.
Leaders must be diligent in their efforts, working tirelessly to accomplish the vision, exhausting all means for a successful journey. Never lose faith or lower the vision. Falling short of the vision is better than setting one low and making it. If leaders will follow the vision with heart-felt desire — it’s a win! To sum up, you must keep the vision and keep from getting distracted.
Remember to make it your priority. To keep the vision you must understand that it will require personal sacrifices and risks to be taken. In making sacrifices and taking risks we often feel like we are out on a limb. Well guess what, you are! But if we don’t take chances you most likely will not keep focused on what is important, the vision you have set as a leader. These distractions that come up often pull even the best leaders off of the vision. When we keep our vision, we often receive harsh criticism. But remember, DO NOT compromise for what seems easier, nor be discouraged by the criticism.
We have to be focused on nurturing our relationship with the fire service. With that said, we need to have true diverse communications that are open and engage active listening. When I focus on active listening, I challenge you to hear what has happened in other organizations and responses. Embrace vicarious learning, as we cannot create training for every scenario possible. There just isn’t enough time. But we can learn about situations, conditions, events and types of responses from others who have experienced them, plus benefit from their lessons learned. By doing this, we spend the required time to live and learn.
With all of this being said, there has to be a degree of pleasure that comes with anything. Remember that we need to keep it fun. However, fun is dictated by attitudes. So before you tell me that all the fun is gone, check your attitude and the people that are influencing you. Maybe the reason it isn’t fun is due to those surrounding you, by which most often is a choice. I challenge you to look at the big picture.
Officers have to keep the romance and passion for the fire service going for your crews. Don’t fall victim yourself. Here are a few tips on how to keep the fire service passion going:
It is important to be following closely what your personnel are doing. You should spend quality time engaged with these individuals to truly understand them as individuals. You should focus on their needs more than your own.
To the fire service and the people who affect and work with you. Positive affirmations and positive thinking techniques can help develop a powerful and positive attitude to life; which is an essential element in life success and good health. With this power you can turn failure around into success and take success and drive it to a whole new level. Your positive attitude is the fuel for your success.
Speak well of the organization and the people in it. Negative comments drag everyone down. The negativity you show in these conversations depicts your level of thinking.
We need to create in our realms an exciting or very unusual experience and the ability to participate in exciting undertakings. This needs to be on going and challenging.
As you strive to keep it fresh remember ... you are a part of this great profession we call the fire service. What are you going to do to make a difference?
Douglas Cline, is a 29-year veteran and student of the Fire Service serving as Training Commander with the City of High Point (NC) Fire Department and Assistant Chief of Administration with the Ruffin Volunteer Fire Department.